Ways To Get Closer With Your Mother In-Law

Mother in-laws can be sometimes difficult to get along with. Most of them are like that. Seldom do you find in-laws who are extra nice and welcoming to have you join the family. We often hear these in-law problems all around us. How to you get to the heart of your mother in-law and not fight with her on a daily basis? 

Before you do drastic things such as putting up a fight with her, think things clearly. Understand that whatever happens she is still one of the most important people in your husband’s life. Being someone older than you and the grandmother that your kids would have, it is your responsibility to show respect to her and try to love her like the way you love your husband.  She loves that person you are married to and she would surely love your kids—and whether you believe it or not, she also cares about you as the women her son decided to spend the rest of his life with.  So control your emotions and do not let anger spoil the chances of building friendship with our mother in-law. 

Be polite all the time. No matter how furious you already are about her critical comments and interference about your decisions as a couple, keep your mouth shut. Do not talk while she’s still making her speech. Show your husband that you are willing to do your part in making friends with her. 

Speak only good things about her and keep bad opinions to yourself. Same thing when you’re talking to your mother in-law, do not speak bad about your spouse. Choose the right words to avoid making her upset. The last thing you want to happen to give problem to your husband and make him choose between you and his mother. 

Be kind and find your way to get to know her. Just like what you are feeling now, your mother-in-law might have experienced the same treatment from her own in-laws.  Do extra effort such as asking her about how to bake your husband’s favorite cake. This makes a good start to a nice conversation. If you find her sitting in the kitchen and eating her snacks alone, join her and chat just about any topic.  Ask her advices about disciplining a child or coping up with pregnancy 101's.These are things she might love talking about as he gets to share with you her own experiences. 

In case of misunderstandings with mother-in-law, let her know how you feel. Do this without trying to blame her but just tell her why you feel that way. Be polite as much as much as possible. 

Being close to a mother-in-law takes a lot of patience and respect. If you love your husband that much, you would also try to love his mother that way you love your own mother.